‘Mummy guilt’

Why is it that whenever I can’t be with one of my girls because I’m seeing to the other one I feel guilty? If I’m changing baby’s nappy and my little girl wants to play, I obviously can’t just stop what I’m doing. Or vice-versa, if I’m getting my little girl washed or changed and baby is crying, even though my gut instinct is to rush immediately to her side, sometimes it’s just not possible and she is left for a few minutes to cry it out. I know I won’t be the only one who feels like this, I suppose the feeling is quite natural, however, I also know that the ‘voice of reason’ in my head is telling me that actually, it’s fine. And I know that it is fine because I can see before me two little girls who can, most of the time, occupy themselves if they have to, who are not ‘needy’ girls, especially if their mummy is busy with something and who understand, as much as their brains will let them that it is ok to play games alone. My eldest daughter’s independence shines through when she’s playing alone and occasionally doesn’t even want adult intervention even if it’s offered. On a recent visit to our health visitor this was noticed and my little girl was praised for her prolonged interest in a certain solo-activity. And when I think about parents with three, four or even five children, I realise that there is no way every single child can be entertained every single minute of every single day. What’s happening is ok, these two daughters of ours are ok, I guess it’s just a case of ‘mummy-guilt’ striking again!

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